If he doesn’t tag you in memes on a daily basis, does he even love you ? Memes are essentially the knock-knock jokes of our generation and a fun way to stay in touch with your significant other during the day because nothing says ‘i love you’ like a ‘Crying Kim K’ meme.

1.  WHEN YOU AGREE ON SOMETHING TO EAT 

True soulmates only. 

2) DARK MISS PIGGY MEME 

Welcome to the dark side girl *evil laugh*

3) SASS ALERT 

You can’t sit with us 🙂 Thank you.

4) FROM BUTTERCUP TO BUBBLES

I’m sensitive, okay ? 

5) SWITCH THE SEAT MEME

I’m not jealous, okay ? I’M TERRITORIAL !

6) GOTTA HANDLE IT MEME

Come to Mama, You  😍

      7) OVER PROTECTIVE BF

And now you look cute 🙂     

 8) JUST HUNGRY MEME

Don’t mind what I said when I was hungry 😅    

In Today’s DNA, FOMO or the fear of missing out is as real as social anxiety. It can be as specific as ‘Why didn’t I get an invite ?’ or as general as ‘Why doesn’t my life look like theirs ?’

The sense of lack of satisfaction has been causing some real damage to today’s millennial relationships and we are here to discuss- HOW?

1.   FOFO 

 The Fear of Facing ourselves is one of the major reasons as to why and how our relationships are suffering. It may come of as surprising how often we head for the exit than confronting our true emotions and exploring the roots of why we feel what we feel. 

As painful as it might be, the most loving thing you can do for yourself and your partner is confronting the unappealing reality thus giving yourself the power to change.

2)  THE BLAME GAME 

Most millennials couples resort to pointing fingers than resolving the issues on hand as a team. We suggest – QUIT THE GAME !! And focus on analysing your role in the recurring problems to WIN at being better together. 

3) THE DEFENDING 

You respond with excuses and explanations rather than understanding your significant other’s point of view and addressing their concerns. Most of us are guilty of  defending without even realising that we are doing so.

So instead try this – Listen to what your partner has to say without keeping in mind the ‘WHY ?’ of it all. 

4) THE GREEN AND MEAN

Yes, we are talking about ‘Envy – The Green Monster in your head’.  If you’re in a LDR or Long Distance Relationship then you’re bound to feel it at one point or another. It might be about something as small as not being able to hangout with your S.O like your other friends do or having to stay at home while your partner is out on the town for the night.  The best thing to do is to, as cliche as it may sound, count your blessings and restrain from comparing.

5) THE SHUT DOWN

We all do it ! Crack a joke to get out of difficult situations or leaving the room to avoid those uncomfortable conversations without realising the damage it might do to our relationship. Not only does it make your partner feel ignored,  it might also portray you as indifferent towards their concerns.

 ABORT MISSION !! REPEAT ABORT MISSION !! Instead try to bring down the walls and be open to feeling vulnerable and having a heart to heart.

6) THE BLACK, WHITE AND GREY 

 Acting like you’re 100%  right and they’re 100% wrong might help you win a few arguments but might make you lose your significant other. Finding a middle ground or a grey space to analyse the positives and negatives of each other’s point of view is what a successful relationship is all about.

7) THE ULTIMATUM 

Making threats and giving ultimatums in a relationship is by far the worst thing you can do in your relationship. It might help you maintain that upper hand for a while but it’s more manipulation than an equal partnership. We suggest – Voice your concerns and set down boundaries as per both people’s interests and opinions.

What does it mean to “be a real man” ? There are but one too many answers to this and it all comes down to the same set of stereotypes like – A “ real man” is unemotional or A “real man” is someone who doesn’t show weakness or ask for directions or show any kind of vulnerability. In this blog we unmask the many faces of toxic masculinity and what place these stereotypes have in a man’s life in  2019. 

1 ) TAKING IT LIKE A MAN 

“Men don’t cry !”

–  The father to his son who has fallen off his bicycle . The subjection of unrealistic gender norms start at an early age in the country and are embedded even further in  man’s brain as life goes on. Men have always been shunned on showing any sign of any weakness and vulnerability. It starts with the first male role model in their lives and then is carried on by the society for the rest of it. The urgency to unmask this trait of toxic masculinity is utmost in 2019 with the country developing in different areas, the time has come to also develop a tolerance towards boys expressing normal human emotions.

2 )  BIG, TOUGH AND STRONG

Arz kiya hai –

                   “ Na 16 inch ka dola

                   Na dhayi kilo ka haath

                   Just be yourself man 

                    Khatam hogyi baat ”

Bollywood has played a rather huge role in projecting  the “Big and Strong” stereotype, resulting in most males growing up to believe violence being the best resort to handle situations and also the best way to a girl’s heart. The need to act tough even when scared or nervous has been instilled in all men since childhood and for those who aren’t are bullied for most parts of their lives. Well BREAKING NEWS !!

“I fell in love with him because of his upper cut punch”

• Said No Girl Ever. 

3 ) NEVER LET THE LADY PAY THE BILL

A “ real man” is a financial provider and never lets a lady pay the bill. The stereotype not only forces the idea of men having to pay up every time they take a woman out but also that women are incapable of paying for themselves. The thin line between being chivalrous and having to pay because you ought to, is just that. In today’s DNA, when both the genders are enjoying financial independence, it’s time to ask ourselves if such norms hold any importance whatsoever in the modern relationship.

4 ) HOUSEHOLD CHORES 

“Ladke ghar ke kaam nhi karte, yeh ladkiyon ke kaam hai” 

Men being the heads in most families aren’t taught to help out the females of the household with the supposed “Ghar ke kaam” and we’re raised believing that it’s a woman’s job to take care and clean up after the man. It’s about time to break the gender stereotype and teach boys to help out at home.

5 ) HYPERSEXUALITY

Indian culture in terms of discussion about sex is very different for both the genders; where women are taught to wait until after marriage, men are supposedly to have or thought of to have many sexual partners. Afterall, a “real man” never says no to sex. The peer pressure faced by most teenage boys in our society is real and often leads to emotional distress. 

Even with such stereotypes existing, the good news is recent studies show 70% of the male population now don’t agree with these sentiments. This is a heartening  indicator of shifting attitudes amongst young men. 

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